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Photo Challenge: “Awf’y” Cheeky Critter

My Scottish grandmother  sprinkled her conversation with the word cheeky, often modified by “awf’y.”  She would have liked this guy.  I ran into this cheeky critter along the trail last summer.  Needless to say, I gave him a wide berth and captured his “fighting stance” with my telephoto lens.

Photo Challenge:  Cheeky 


An Enduring Bond

Like millions of other Americans, I hit the road this 4th of July weekend in search of…and found this tranquil cove along the Au Sable River in northern Michigan.  When I was a boy, my grandfather would take me to this secluded locale on summer vacations.   I can still feel his presence during my re-visits.

Au Sable River, Michigan

Au Sable River, Michigan

A Flower Wilted and a Grandmother’s Gift

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       My Grandmother MacEwen I knew  late in her life,  when she was hobbled by arthritis and worn from  decades as  a coal miner’s wife.  “Son, I’m getting aw’fy gimpy in my old age,” she would  tell me  in her Scottish burr.    She lived three times zones west of us and so her visits were a rare gift.  My uncle drove  across the empty expanse of the Canadian prairie in his British-made car, with my grandmother, as I imagined, a stoic passenger.  Uncle Tam  made the trek across three provinces and five  states  in three days, which was a marvel to me when I became old enough to drive.  “We always make Winnipeg by sundown,” he assured me.   Eight hundred miles separated their  home in the foothills   of the Canadian Rockies  from that urban outpost sprouting in  the Manitoba wheat fields.

         My grandmother’s appearance spoke of a life far removed from that of  my more prosperous relatives  in Detroit.  Lizzie, as my uncle called her, wore her iron gray hair pulled back in a bun, although a few disobedient strands escaped the control of her hair pins.  Her face was deeply wrinkled, with her upper lip pulled up as if she had  a stroke years ago.  Usually, a rumpled, charcoal  gray dress hung loosely about her, and varicose veins showed plainly beneath her nylons.  Her slippers were a  concession to the bunions on her feet.

Grandma MacEwen could be  abrasive:   critical, even spiteful toward my uncle and my mother. But,  to her grandson she was the most honestly emotional person in the family.  While our home was so often silent  and bleak, in her rare stays  Grandma  brought with her recognition and  affection  for me.  I often puzzled, as I grew older, over  these two sides  to her character.

Revealing  a slice of  family history one day, my mother told me of Grandma MacEwen’s youth, growing up in the Scottish town of  Dunfermline at the turn of the 20th century.  Her father was a miner, taking the tram car down into the  coal dungeons,  working hunched over  from can’t see to can’t see.   At the local  grade school, bright-eyed young  Lizzie  was a top student, held in high regard by her teachers.  “Aye, the wee lass shows  promise.”

To my grandmother’s  misfortune, childhood was not a luxury that a coal miner’s family could afford. The day Lizzie  finished sixth grade, her father told her that  school was a waste of time for  girls.  My grandmother, then 11  years-old, would start her job  in the textile factory near  Pittencrief.

Now, as I think  about that long ago conversation with my mother,  I picture diminutive  Lizzie dwarfed by  the  power looms.  The gauzy lint hangs  in the air.  Her lunch has to be gobbled while she is standing.  Her  fingers are sore, always.  Perhaps she is not  nimble enough, and the straw boss whacks her with his  switch.  “You’ll no be loafin’  around this job like a store dug!”

Tending her machines, she often thinks of her days in school, being called on, writing on the blackboard, then basking in  her teacher’s  praise.  She recalls  her father’s blunt  words that took her schooldays  away–the back of his hard hand across her face when she protested.  She brushes the floating  lint from her face.   The resentment, the cold impotent rage, she buries deep inside.

As a teenager, she graduates from the factory to marry a coal miner.  Young Mike  is an adventurous lad, and they try their luck across the water  in Canada.  They settle in  a  coal mining town on the banks of the Saskatchewan River, surrounded by  the   wilderness.  He works hard in the mine, earning a promotion to pit boss; she bears three children and two survive.  There is enough money for groceries, but sometimes not enough coal to heat the cramped wooden house, so the eggs  freeze in the cupboard.  Christmas gifts for the children are out of the question, except for  a few oranges in their stockings.  She watches her son stricken with a mysterious spinal ailment, which leaves him partly crippled because there is no money for fancy, big-city doctors.  She wonders if her husband will come home safely from the mines.  He always does, but two of her cousins  are not so lucky.

This childhood, this life, this fate, might wear many people out.  It did grind down many people into despair.  My grandmother, however, kept a spark alive.  She was the one who picked up her family from western Canada during the Depression and moved them to Scotland so her husband could find work.  Later, she brought them back to Canada when the coal industry revived, though on the return voyage she kept a wary lookout for Nazi U-boats lurking in the  north Atlantic.

And in her old age, amidst the bitterness that infected her, but did not consume her, she found within herself a well of affection to bequeath to a grandson.  In return, she especially appreciated hearing how well he was doing in school.

In Search of Elusive Deer

(An excerpt: memories of boyhood vacations in MichiganMichigan north woods)

When I awakened, my eyes met the pre-dawn silver-gray clinging to the woods outside the window, and the tangy scent of pine wafting through the screen.  The white frame cottage rested in a small clearing.  Somewhere through the trees, maybe a half-mile, and then down the steep, sandy Rollways, the Au Sable River lapped ashore, bleached logs from bygone  lumbering days bobbing in the cove.  This swift trout stream, uncoiling through the upper part of Michigan’s mitten, pooled to a broad, cobalt blue lake where Cooke Dam blocked its course  to Lake Huron.  Never warm, the river chilled to icy overnight.  By afternoon, it would still be brisk when we clambered down the hill for a swim, now chased, now led, by my sister’s collie.

Yet, it was still too early, not to mention too cold, to consider getting up.  Pulling the scratchy, old blanket up further, I dozed off.  Not for long, because my grandfather, in his flannel nightshirt, was stirring about the living room, as the first rays of sunlight peeked through the pines.  “We’ll have this old fire going in two shakes, Tommy,” he said, while lighting the propane heater.  Warmth flooded the room, subduing the morning chill.  Safer I have never felt.

While the cottage grew toasty, it was my grandmother, Gladys’, turn to make an appearance.  The hare to my grandfather’s tortoise, she bustled purposefully into her domain, the kitchen.  This was around a corner from my bed, but a clatter and clanging of steel pans announced her activity.
Even at this early hour, her white hair was neatly brushed and she wore a green print dress.  Certain proprieties must be maintained, even on vacation.
It did not take long.  “Anne, Tommy, come and get your breakfast—before your grandfather eats it all.”

My sister and I scrambled into our seats.  Bill Leiter, the cottage’s owner, had fashioned the furniture from local pines.  While we buttered the cinnamon-topped coffeecake, my grandfather was slicing the thick cantaloupe he had spotted at a farmer’s roadside stand.
“Grandpa, are we going swimming in the Au Sable today?” Anne asked.
“Can’t today, Anne.  Bill and I have to catch supper.  There will be plenty of time for swimming another day.”
Carving the melon with what looked like a scimitar, he seemed to remember something weighty.  “You know, kids, I never learned to swim until I was thirty,” he began.  Anne and I exchanged smiles; we knew a rustic tale would follow.  My grandfather was a realtor by trade, but his specialty was raconteur.

“Nope, never had the chance.  Why, I was that old before I knew what a vacation was.  It was year-round work on the farm, always more chores to do.  Time off?  We never heard of it.”
He scooped the seeds and pulp from the cantaloupe.  After slicing the halves into quarters, he placed them at my grandmother’s place, then before Anne and me.
“Would have liked a couple weeks up North, but who would’ve milked the darn cows.  Who would’ve hitched up the team at 2 a.m. to take the fruit and vegetables to Eastern Market?  No sir, no vacations on the farm.”

We had heard this many times, but I never tired of my grandfather’s yarns.  As a magic carpet, they conveyed me to a strange world, when barnyards and fields sprawled across Dearborn.  Imagine: horse carts on Michigan Avenue!
“Otto, you big goose,” my grandmother called from the kitchen.  “To hear you tell it, the men did all the work on the farm.  What did we girls do, play with dolls all day?  I should say not.  You think cleaning and cooking and baking for everyone was fun and games?”
Anne and I looked at my grandfather.  He appeared amused, not chastened.  Wagging a finger, my grandmother added, “Don’t you kids believe it; we girls kneaded dough ‘til our fingers ached.”
With her territory staked out, she placed the steaming bowls of oatmeal before us, as if it were the most important thing in the world.  Just at that moment, of course, it was.